WEEK THREE SUITE for

Forbidden Love:

“When Love Becomes a Trap”

Theme Focus

This lesson exposes the pattern that keeps people emotionally tied to what God has
already released them from.
It is not about blaming the person – it is about discerning the cycle.

I. Opening Revelation –
“The Trap Is Familiar, Not Fulfilling”

Forbidden love rarely begins
with rebellion
It begins with comfort, familiarity, and
emotional memory
The trap is the loop that keeps pulling the
heart back
The spirit knows the truth, but the emotions
crave the pattern

Anchor Scripture:
Galatians 5:7 – “You were running well; who hindered you?”

II. What Makes a Trap a Trap
1. It feels good before it feels dangerous

Emotional validation
Temporary relief
False intimacy

2. It promises what it cannot sustain

Attention without commitment
Passion without covenant
Connection without responsibility

3. It costs more than it gives
Drains clarity
Weakens discernment
Pulls you off assignments

III. The Emotional Hook

Teach them to identify

The trigger
The reward
The illusion
The cycle

Key Insight:
People don’t return because they’re
weak –
They return because the pattern is familiar.

IV. The Spiritual Cost

Delayed purpose
Confused identity
Compromised boundaries
Emotional exhaustion

Scripture:
Proverbs 4:23 – “Guard your heart..”

V. The Turning Point –
“When You Finally See the Pattern”

This is where the heart wakes up:

“This is not love- this is a loop.”
“This is not connection – this is captivity.”
“This is not destiny – this is distraction.”

VI. The Call to Clarity

Renounce the cycle
Reclaim your emotional authority
Return to your assignment
Rebuild your boundaries

Closing Scripture:
Isaiah 52: 2 – “Shake yourself from the dust..
loose yourself.”

SANCTUARY LETTER

“When Love Becomes a Trap”

Beloved,

There comes a moment in every journey where God
gently places His hand on the heart and says,
“Look again.”

Not at the person.
Not in the story.
Not in the memories.
But at the pattern.

Because sometimes the thing that feels like love is really
a loop -a cycle that keeps you emotionally tied to what
Your spirit has already outgrown.

Forbidden love is not always loud.
Sometimes it is quiet, familiar,
comforting, and predictable.
It feels like home, even when it is
hurting you.
It feels like a connection, even when it is costing you clarity.

This week, God is not exposing your weakness.
He is exposing the trap.

The trap that pulls you back.
The trap that whispers, “just one more time.”
The trap that feels like love but
functions like bondage.

And here is the truth you may not have said out loud:

You weren’t trapped by the person- you were trapped by
the pattern.

The pattern that rewarded your loneliness.
The pattern that fed your hope.
The pattern that soothed your wounds.
The pattern that felt familiar, even when it wasn’t healthy.

But the moment you see the pattern, the pattern loses its power.

This is your week of clarity.
Your week of awakening.
You are not surrendering your assignment to
a distraction.

You are stepping out of the loop and into your life.

And heaven is standing with you.

-Debra
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The Sanctuary Letter

🙏🏽 WEEK THREE – COMPANION PRAYER

“Breaking the Pattern”

Father,
I come before You with an open heart and a willing spirit.
I ask You to shine Your light on every pattern that has
held me captive –
every emotional loop, every familiar trap, every cycle that
has kept me tied to what You have released me from.

Today, I renounce the pattern.
I release the illusion.
I break the agreement with every
emotional hook that has drained my
clarity and weakened my
discernment.

Father, restore my vision.
Restore my boundaries.
Restore my emotional authority.
Restore my identity in You.

I declare that I am not returning to what You have
delivered me from. I declare that I am not repeating
cycles that steal my peace.
I declare that I am stepping into clarity, strength, and
spiritual maturity.

Loose me from every trap.
Anchor me in truth.
Strengthen me in purpose.
And lead me into the freedom You designed for me.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen

Rev. Debra Stith