🌿Family & Marriage- What We Don’t Talk About Enough

Family and marriage are not just relationships. They are assignments, and every
An assignment comes with its own lessons, its own stretching, and its own refining.

We love to talk about the beauty of family. We don’t always talk about the complexity of it.

Because the truth is:

Children grow up with different wounds, even in the same house.
Marriage can bless you and break you in the same season.
Love doesn’t always look like what we imagined.
And healing rarely comes in a straight line.

What l’ve learned is this:

🌱Family is not about perfection – Its about presence.

Every child carries a different story, a different wiring, a different emotional
assignment.
You cannot mother them all the same.
You can only love them from a place of peace, not pressure.

🕊️Marriage is not about avoiding storms -it’s about surviving them with
your soul intact.

Some marriages last.
Some marriages teach.
Some marriages break you open
So God can rebuild you from the
inside out,

🔥Healing doesn’t erase the past – it changes your posture toward it.

You stop carrying what isn’t yours.
You stop rescuing grown people.
You stop absorbing other people’s storms.
You stop losing yourself in roles you’ve outgrown.

💛And you learn to relate to people from your healed Identity, not
Your wounded one.

That’s where peace lives.
That’s where clarity lives.
That’s where God meets you.

Family will stretch you.
Marriage will shape you.
Life will break you wide open.
But healing will teach you how to
stand again –
not as the woman you were,
But as the woman you’ve become.

And from that place, you can love
without losing yourself.
You can support without absorbing.
You can be present without being pulled.
You can honor others without abandoning your peace.

This is work.
This is growth.
This is the grace.

Rev. Debra Stith